Marrying for the first time or remarrying after a failed marriage can be both exhilarating and daunting. As a Relationship and Family Coach who has navigated the choppy waters of divorce and found safe harbour in a fulfilling second marriage, I know the challenges and rewards that come with taking another plunge. In this blog, I'll share essential considerations every couple should make before saying "I do" again or for the first time.

Timing is Everything

When my husband Ben and I were dating, he asked me when I wanted to have children. I had always said 31 was the age for me. Ben simply looked at me and said, "Well, you still can." I was just about to turn 30, and his words left me speechless but also filled with possibility. We married, and sure enough, I had our son when I was 31. This experience taught me the importance of aligning life goals and timelines, especially when considering remarriage or marriage for the first time.

Family Plans: The Baby Question

Discuss your family plans openly. Whether you're planning to have children or introduce stepchildren into the new marriage, it's crucial to be on the same page about your family dynamic.

Values: The Core of Your Relationship

Advice: Make sure you share core values. Whether it's religion, lifestyle choices, or social issues, having aligned values will make decision-making easier and reduce conflict.

Love Language: Speak My Heart

Advice: Understand each other's love language. Whether it's words of affirmation, acts of service, or physical touch, knowing how your partner feels loved will help you meet their emotional needs effectively.

Conflict Resolution: The Art of Making Up

Advice: Develop a healthy conflict resolution strategy. Whether it's taking a time-out or seeking mediation from a third party, knowing how to resolve conflicts is crucial for any lasting relationship.

Shared Vision: The Roadmap to Your Future

Advice: Create a shared vision for your life together. Whether it's where you'll live, career plans, or how you'll spend your golden years, having a shared vision will keep you both moving in the same direction.

Career Plans: Balancing Love and Ambition

Advice: Discuss your career plans and how they fit into your shared vision. Whether one of you plans to be the primary breadwinner or you're aiming for a dual-career household, these discussions will help you plan your future more effectively.

Needs and How to Meet Them: The Recipe for Satisfaction

Advice: Clearly articulate your needs and how they can be met within the relationship. Whether it's emotional support or sharing household chores, understanding what you both need from each other will lead to a more fulfilling relationship.

Communication: The Lifeline of Your Relationship

Advice: Establish open lines of communication from the get-go. Whether it's discussing finances or your deepest fears, effective communication will be the cornerstone of your relationship.

Conclusion: Your Love Story Awaits

Whether you're marrying for the first time or looking to make your second marriage your forever one, these considerations are crucial for building a strong foundation. I've used these principles to build a thriving second marriage, and I've helped countless clients do the same.

Take the Next Step: Your Guide to Marital Bliss

If you're looking for a comprehensive guide to walk you through these steps, consider enrolling in my course, conscious couples or joining our great community at my kin app designed to prepare you for a successful, fulfilling marriage. These resources offer actionable steps and in-depth advice to ensure you're well-prepared for this life-changing commitment.

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Remember, love is a journey, not a destination. Make sure you're well-prepared for the ride.